A message for men, husbands in particular.

Come Out Of Her My People

Revelation 18:4

"Let age, not envy, draw wrinkles on thy cheeks."

Sir Thomas Browne (A Letter to a Friend, 1690)

When you deny yourself the pleasure of enjoying something you have by dwelling on something you do not have, you are a robber. You are robbing yourself of the joy and pleasure of enjoying, appreciating and being grateful for what you do have.

"The sin of envy carries with it an immediate penalty -- an available pleasure is taken from you." MMF Early To Rise

Are you 100% sure your marriage is rock solid and unshakeable? If you have any doubts about that and you don't want to lose the wonderful wife you already have, you may want to forget about telling your wife at all about your desires of having another wife.

At first it is very difficult for a woman to understand or accept. This

society is a monogamy only "Romanised" society. It isn't in the thought

processes of the general populace to think of polygamy as acceptable.

My wife went through quite a few days of turmoil and struggled with the

idea for a few months at least. She's an exceptional woman. In the 3 years or so since we first studied the subject we've seen men insist on polygamy for their lives and end up with no wife at all.

I have no idea of how to approach this subject without causing an amazing amount of pain for your wife either. I can share with you what I did but that may not work for you. Some people think I'm crazy for how and when I did it.

I will tell you that when I brought it up I told my wife it was probably a

crazy idea and I would do a word study on it and I would probably find out it was wrong and that would be it. I wouldn't even think about it anymore after that. I just set the idea aside but she kept after me to study it for several days. I finally did and was that ever an eye opener for both of us.

Then she got worried and nervous. She started studying herself. She had never known how to use a concordance before that, now she does. he he

She studied and dug. Then she got on the internet to do research too. When it was all said and done she had to be honest with herself about it. There is nothing wrong with it from a Scriptural standpoint.

My wife saw through the false arguments against it too. Some women will grasp those false arguments because they can't face the idea of polygamy due to jealousy which comes from insecurity.

From this you can understand that you must make sure your wife is EXTREMELY, 100% secure in your love before you would ever mention polygamy. Then you better make sure she stays secure in your love throughout the rest of your life.

I've heard of men saying stupid things like they don't have anything to

live for if they can't have another wife etc. That is being manipulative and doesn't make the wife feel the least bit secure. IT IS SELF DEFEATING IF THEY REALLY WANT POLYGAMY!

Don't tell her she has a choice to let you do this or she can leave or any such arrogant sorts of things. It won't help your case at all. Any statement that makes her feel insecure will only serve to hurt you.

I hope something I've said will help you in some way. I hope you are man enough to let the idea go if your wife simply cannot deal with it. You did marry her with the understanding of monogamy too. Did your vows include, "forsaking all others?" Mine did not. My wife even dug out the audio tape of our wedding to listen carefully to see if they were.

One thing to remember is that you need to be a man of your word to gain and keep her respect. If you blow it, it will do much damage to your relationship.

Now for the cool part. It is almost impossible to find a second woman in

today's society who is: 1. Interested in you personally as a man

2. Willing to accept and live in a polygamous marriage 3. Is someone who will get along with you and your wife harmoniously.

We've been looking/waiting for the right lady for 3 plus years now. I still

have one wife. Some men who have embarked on this journey carelessly and stubbornly have no wife after less time. Some of them have children who think they're crazy and they don't respect their father anymore.

Please consider all of the downfalls before jumping headlong into this.

If you do decide to talk about this with your wife, speak to her gently and

lovingly. Help her through it and let her know you would never want to be without her no matter what.

Stay completely honest and never hide anything from her. You'll have to be honest with yourself and your own emotions too.

Anyway, I hope I've been of some help. Feel free to write if you have

questions.

In His service,

David

P.S Consider the marriage you already have as most important of anything.

Women who are interested in polygamy want a loving man who isn't forcing polygamy on their first wife. If they see the first sign of it, or jealousy in your wife they won't be around. If you make the marriage and family you have now something other women would want to be part of you may have a chance.

Polygamy will cause you to stretch to be a better man, husband and father.